Written by a 1st Grade Teacher to all Parents
When I look around my classroom I could not tell you who Crawled first, who walked before one or spoke in sentences by 15 months. I can not tell that you if their parent’s breastfed or bottle-fed. No idea if they still wear pull-ups at night, because I am sure many do. I do not know if they potty trained at Eighteen(18) months or Four (4) years old. I do not know that if their mom ever left them to cry it out for a few minutes or if they strapped them to their bodies 24/7.
Do you know what I can tell when I look at my kids? I can say which families value kindness and manners in their Homes. I can say that when a child feels loved and secure at home (and at school which sadly isn’t always everyone’s school experience!) and I know who has pizzas and movie Friday nights and which mom reads in different voices for Bedtimes.
I can see how kids handle scary situations like thunderstorms. I can see that who has a solid routine at home and who has chores and responsibilities. I can hear how you speak to your children by how they speak to others.
When look at my little friends 1 don’t see their milestones, I see who they are: their actions, their heart, their inner voice, their struggles and triumphs, and I see you; and all the love you pour into them. We always supposed to talk about testing and benchmarks and data during parent-teacher conferences and I had a mom last time look at me and say “I do not worry about all the reading and maths, she will get there.
I want to know that…how is she, as a person. Is she kind? Does she include others?”
That took my breath away and is something that will always stick with me!!!
Go easy on yourselves mamas, just love your little ones…it’s all they need.